Atlanta Help for Chronic Infidelity, Porn Problems, Sex Addiction and Complex Betrayal

Sex is wonderful but it can't be considered healthy in the presence of cheating, deception or consistent risk.  Unfortunately people often do just that, placing much of what is important to them in harm's way.  Some  watch pornography excessively, others spend large sums of money on sex, or have a string of brief hook-ups or even multiple long-term affairs. The list goes on.  People often know at some level that these behavior patterns are not healthy but don't seek help until something bad takes place.

There are many reasons why people continue these and other forms of problematic sexual behavior.  Sometimes the issue is a type of sex or pornography addiction, a loss of sufficient ability to make consistently healthy sexual choices.  This is often determined by continued  behavior despite strong efforts and promises to stop.  I think of this process being like termites eating away at a home's foundation.  Sustained secretive behaviors can carve deep caverns within a person’s life, which is how really good people find parts of themselves on both sides of an ever-deepening inner divide until some collapse brings the whole mess crashing down on them and those they love.

As is shown in my bio, I'm a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) in Atlanta.  This means I'm highly trained in a model for helping people that was developed by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.  A brilliant and highly influential pioneer in the field, Dr. Carnes developed a comprehensive sex addiction model that in many ways resembles historic alcohol and drug addiction treatment that includes strongly 12-step philosophy and meeting attendance, coupled with a highly trauma-informed perspective.  It's really a powerful and potentially transformative model for the right person and situation.  

As much as I value and respect the Carnes model I'm not a typical "Atlanta CSAT".  My clinical approach incorporates but extends beyond the bounds of this model to gain a deeper and more nuanced understanding of what is happening with each indiivdual who comes to me for assistance.  As is evident elsewhere on this site I believe there are numerous reasons that act in varying combinations to contribute to a wide range of problematic sexual behavior patterns.  It's important to have enough theories to fit each person and not one approach for everyone.  I bring multiple perspectives and philosophies to help assess what is happening and figure out what to do about it.

Regardless of the cause getting past these behaviors and their consequences may not be quick or easy, but it is entirely possible.  The best strategy forward is to be honest, to accept the reality of the problem, to hold yourself accountable and to remain dedicated to sustained effort toward relational healing and personal growth.  The outcome can turn out better than you even dare to hope! 

If you are ready to live differently, that's a good sign.  I'm available to help, but if it's not with me for whatever reason then find someone you can trust to truthfully discuss what is going on and get and follow a plan of action to a better life.  

Look over my qualifications for addressing this topic if you haven't done so already.  If you think I may be the right person to help you then we can set up an initial visit to talk privately and openly about how to reach whatever goals you have right now. 

-Bill