Mud Moments in Earth School
I enjoy catchy phrases and sayings, especially when I hear one that I haven't stumbled across this far along the road (although I guess nothing is really "far" on a limitless journey). Two phrases caught my ear recently, and I combined them in the title. One is "mud moment" and the other is "Earth school".
"Mud moment" is what 12-step philosophy terms "hitting bottom". When ego can no longer support the weight of delusion, when desire for what could be gives way to acceptance of what is, when fantasy finally evaporates into reality, when you finally realize all of your sound and fury really does signify nothing (to borrow from Shakespeare), when you realize your life is collapsing faster than you can lower your standards, then you have had your mud moment.
I love the phrase "you hit your bottom when you stop digging." This is the moment of surrender, one of the most important occasions in a person's life.
And "Earth school"? This is the place where all the lessons take place. People who join together to help each other remain free from addictive behavior often smile tenderly to each other when discussing their life among the "Earthlings" or "civilians". I think this same sentiment can be expressed by many people who feel wired differently from many of their peers and aquaintences.
As the American Buddhist monk Jack Kornfield quipped,
"This life is a test -- it is only a test. If it had been an actual life, you would have received further instructions on where to go and what to do. Remember, this life is only a test."
School is in session. Prepare to get dirty.
Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT is well-seasoned psychotherapist in Atlanta. He helps people with a wide range of difficult issues. He also has a lot of insight into the many ways sexual desire can be tainted with compulsion and what to do about it.