Positive Vibrations

Managing the Dreaded "What If?"

Anxiety often starts with the words "What if.....?" Sometimes this can lead to a plan for dealing with possible situations that may occur in the future.  But since many fearful fantasies start with "what if?", a few basic tools can be very useful to keep in mind.

Do Something Different

One piece of advice I sometimes give to my Atlanta psychotherapy and counseling clients may seem too simple to have lasting impact. However, just because something is simple doesn't mean that it's easy, and what I'm about to say can go a long way in helping you to overcome virtually any personal issue that is negatively impacting your life.

The 20-60-20 Rule for Maintaining a Positive Attitude

It's no big news to say that some days are better than others. There are times when nothing goes as planned as well as periods when everything seems to fall into place just the right way. It's my conviction that how we handle the challenging times in our life goes a long way in determining our overall happiness.

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Two Types of Challenges

There are fundamentally two types of challenges that bring a person to a therapist's office: problems of external circumstance and problems of internal struggle.  Life puts some problems before us, while others we essentially create for ourselves. As a therapist and counselor I help people deal with both categories.

Absence of the Negative vs. Presence of the Positive

What prevents us from being happy?  Often our search for happiness seems elusive because of some negative influence that is getting in the way.  But is that all there is to it?

What Are You Willing To Do?

What are you willing to do to live the life that is best for you, that fulfills your potential and brings you the greatest amount of possible satisfaction? And how long are you willing to strive for it? What are you willing to invest, how long are you willing to work and wait? What are the lengths you are willing to go to achieve the life you deserve to live?

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Ten Will Get You Fifty

People obviously seek psychotherapy or counseling to make changes in some part of their lives, and nobody wants to engage in a lot of effort for only minimal benefit.  I sometimes use the phrase "ten will get you fifty" to describe situations in which a small effort can yield a large reward.

You Get More Of What You Notice

This concept is not original to me (there is truly very little new under the sun) but I've found the idea that "you get more of what you notice" is so helpful that not only do I encourage my clients to put it into practice but I try to do the same in my day-to-day life.

"Got To" vs. "Get To"

This is another in a series of what I call "therapeutic distinctions", pairings of concepts that are similar to each other but which contain subtle yet important differences that can significantly affect a person's quality of life. Such is the distinction between "got to" and "get to".

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Making Pearls

I've loved this metaphor for years. It's the simple reminder that a pearl is made when a bit of sand gets inside the shell of an oyster. To protect itself from that irritant the oyster continually surrounds it with a translucent coating. This simple process repeats itself over and over until a beautiful pearl forms.

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